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წHappy Full Month to our 2nd newborn,Ayden!!წ

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(Gobi Cake)

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(Buffet from Chili Api)

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with cousin n her daughter)

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with Annie,my Jul mummy friend)

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with a friend)

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with Ann,a great online friend)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(the function room)

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with my 2 handsome nephews)

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with my 2 sisters and nephews)

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with my cousin and her daughter)

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(with my cousins)

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(one of my Jul mummy friend and her family)

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(Ayden’s full month cake from Gobi)

 

 

 

Ayden’s full month on 27th Aug 2011(Thanks for the gifts and red packets people)

 

 

 

 

Well,We celebrated Ayden’s full month party on the 27th Aug instead of his actual full month on 4th Sept.(earlier by a week)Reason being was that,we had booked the venue at SAF Seaview Resort Function Room in June with the idea that since Ayden will be 2nd born of the Chew Family,that he will arrive earlier,therefore we book this date.But who knows Ayden choose to arrive on 39weeks and 4 days of pregnancy,which was 4th Aug,plus the venue was booked earlier and can’t be cancel.So we celebrated his full month in advance.He was only 3 weeks old then.

 

 

Nevertheless,the celebration was a success since the people we invited be it relatives or friends came except for one or two of them.But still,everything was in good hand.The only thing was that,Ayden was too “energetic” and refused to sleep throughout the session.But Adelle fall asleep by 230pm after being move around in the stroller.

 

How time flies,it’s already almost full month and Ayden is almost 4 weeks old.Imagine the day,4th Aug which I had to “run” to the hospital with Adelle and dear for the arrival of Ayden,and now he is going to turn full month in another few days time.

 

Had cater for Chili Api for their buffet(yummy and thumbs up!!) while for the full month cake,we ordered Gobi Cake instead of sweetest moment(for a change)no doubt during Adelle full month we are pretty happy with Sweetest moment for their full month cake.I just love the caterer,Chili Api.Their food was great!!2nd round we ordered from them,the 1st was during Adelle 1st Birthday Party.Gobi Cake was nice as well,just on the steep side in their price though.

 

 

From the full month,we “earn” quite a bit and earn back more than what we had forked out.*happy*Most importantly,we manage to make this event a successful one.Happy Full Month,my 2nd newborn,Ayden!!

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The new changes._//

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Into my 4th week of confinement!!Yes the confinement is coming to the end in another few days time.(on 4th Sept,Sun)

Not really a confinement for me since I’m out pretty often during this one month.Was glad I did went out for a breather thou.If not I can’t imagine being “kept” at home for this whole month.

The word confinement fears me each time I think of it when I’m pregnant.Fear of being confine at home,fear of post natal blues again.But I managed to fight it all.Yes I would say now my blues are getting all right with confinement getting over soon.Beside so,the stitches for normal delivery made me uncomfortable for the D day till a week later.By 2nd week,I don’t feel anything uncomfortable and now into my 4th week,I’m feeling as though there is nothing.In fact,now I can walk and do things as normal without worrying about the stitches being tear.

Just that the caterer of confinement food will end on 11th Sept due to some days I’m out which they didn’t deliver and make up for me or even the two public holidays.The thoughts of confinement food makes me fear of once again.

Again,I’m glad that I had gone by this far and is done with confinement soon.

Now looking at the two beautiful children of mine is more than anything else.Looking at them makes me feel blessed of which was given.I prayed for both Adelle and Ayden.Their features answer whatever message God is going to tell me.I believed.

Both Adelle and Ayden don’t come by easy.Dear and myself had tried so long for them both and I had been telling myself that I must be thankful and treasure this special moments of them both.Caring of Adelle and Ayden together with dear makes our bonding even more closer and love the family.

For Adelle,she is stepping into the terrible 2,which at times it’s pretty hard to talk sense to her no doubt she can still listen to instruction very well.It’s all about her trying to gain our attention when Ayden arrives.So what we can do to divert her attention was to get her involve in whatever activities with Ayden.One of it was to get her to prepare Ayden diaper,body lotion to apply on him.This work out pretty well and i managed to bathe Ayden with “Adelle’s little help”

Of course,I also managed to bathe Adelle the moment Ayen sleeps.This I gonna know his style of sleep and pattern.

So it’s getting easier to bathe both of them without Adelle being sticky to me as compared to the 1st/2nd week which she simply refused me to do so.

Now for Ayden,well dear and myself managed to “dig” his patterns and styles now.He is a light sleeper.He can only manage to fall asleep in the hall only when Adelle sleeps in the afternoon without making any noise.So normally by 120pm,I will be bringing Adelle to the room to nap while Ayden stays with my in the hall without any noise to sleep.Very often by 3pm he can only get to nap whereby Adelle will be waking up around 4pm.So normally at 2pm where my mum leaves my place,I gonna pat Ayden to sleep and he will be in deep sleep often by 3pm.

And yes,Ayden had the same pattern as Adelle,that is to pat to sleep!!
(all these are during the day)

For night time,normally dear and myself will take turn to handle each child.We normally seperated them till older since Ayden is a light sleeper.So as mentioned before,I will be in Adelle’s room keeping her accompany while the daddy pat Ayden to sleep in the hall.
This happen till Ayden is in deep sleep.

When comes night feed,this was what happen.Since Ayden wakes up every two hourly for milk.(he is damn accurate in time)I will normally latch him every 2hourly(I hasn’t introduce him FM yet till next month once for night feed),so daddy will stay beside Adelle and lie down beside her and nap a while for that 15-20mins after Ayden finishes his milk.So after which we will clean him up(normally he poos straight after BM),and I will be sure to drink my red dates to make up of the water lost.Next daddy will be patting Ayden in the dark(he loves dark and know he can sleep straight) for like 10mins and place him down on the playpen.Of course,this little boy will fuss a bit by moving his legs and hands around for that few mins.There he goes in deep sleep again and this is where dear and myself catch our sleep for another two.hours before Ayden next feed.

Seriously,this is how we catch.Ayden style and pretty much different from Adelle.At least he let us sleep for two hours each after the next feed.For Adelle during this confinement time,she will just sleep for 30-45mins and wake up even before her 2hourly feed/allows us to sleep for two hrs after each feed.Worst,she needs to pat even longer before placing her on the playpen.By the time she fall asleep,it’s already time for her.next feed.

Hopefully Ayden sleeps this way and only wake up every two hourly for his next feed and sleep like 10mins later after his milk.Like this we can nap for two hours each time and last as a cycle again till he is older.

By 6/7months,his sleep should drag longer in the night.That should be around Feb/Mar next year.Hope for that privilege to come yea.:)

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Adelle at Bouncing kids with the daddy._//

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adelle’s at Bouncing kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just last weekend,(Sat)the daddy brought Adelle to the indoor playground at Kovan,Bouncing kids for a free play.Well for now we gonna take care of our children in a way that,daddy handle one child,while mummy handle the other.Yes,it gonna be this way.For example,while I handle Ayden,daddy handles Adelle or I handle Adelle while daddy handles Ayden just like what we are doing daily.

 

 

So normally when evening comes after dinner,I will be staying with Adelle in her room to teach her as normal,to go back to her normal routine while daddy stays at the hall to handle Ayden and makes him sleep before he joins in with us in the room.Reason being was that,Ayden was a light sleeper,so if he needed to sleep,it gonna be quiet and be “seperated” from Adelle.If the place is too noisy,he expected to be carried.That’s my son!!

 

 

So last weekend,the daddy decided to make Adelle happy and to prevent any jealousy between herself and the brother(when I breastfeed Ayden)and also to let her have a breather out there,he brought her to the nearby indoor playground,Bouncing kids at Kovan Hub.She had an hour of fun there and when she came back,she was so much happier when I had asked her how fun was the playground and she kept nodding her head.

 

 

Seriously,it’s not that easy while handling with two children while the older one will feel jealousy and hard to adapt for the newborn.Plus,I’m having pretty bad blues and hard to adapt to Ayden as well,it makes things even harder and can’t go back to the normal routine which we had been doing till much later.

 

So now what we had planned so far was handle each of them separately till Ayden becomes more mobile and is able to learn together with Adelle.It’s only this period of time till he is a year old that will be hard.Therefore I hope next Aug comes quickly before everything will be much easier.

 

 

Now Ayden is 3weeks old,more or less had know his style of his needs/wants..Just that sometimes we can’t put two kids together,but sometimes we could provided it’s not Ayden sleeping time.Since now we roughly had a guide of how to handle both children at the same time,it had made things much easier too.Hopefully by next month or the following month,we will be able to handle things tactfully!

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The 2 cuties of mine

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Looking at all the photos which I had taken of my two children makes me feel great!!

No doubt that I carried both my children till full terms(almost 40weeks),bad post natal blues,but one thing for sure was that I’m blessed by God for giving me two kids of different genders,a girl and a boy!!!

After a long wait of 9mths of pregnancy,Ayden had arrived and I’m affected by bad post natal blues.No doubt that at 3rd week(which was today),I’m feeling so much better and not feeling as bad as the time I had delivered.

Had kept telling myself that this pregnancy is a surprise to us during dear 30th Birthday as I’m tested positive on his birthday.

On top of that,being hit by bad morning sickness,taking care of Adelle on my own day and night throughout the whole pregnancy,still find time for preparing meals daily,teach/train Adelle on her studies and best of all,to carry Adelle all the way fr my block to the MRT station once every weekly to my master place,all these don’t come easily.Therefore being “attack”by post natal blues,I had to keep reminding myself that all these don’t come by easy and I must feel blessed that I’m given two lovely gifts by Buddha and must feel thankful for instead of feeling not being able to accept Ayden and feel bad for Adelle.

So now,after all these thoughts,I feel much better somehow.Very soon Ayden will be celebrating his full month and in no time will be his 1st year Birthday.Time will pass very fast,is only this period that will get tougher but when Ayden turns a yr old,Adelle will be 3yrs old,I will be having easier time by then.

Therefore I kept telling myself,just during this period will be tougher,to start all over again.But after a yr later,everything will be better.

Somehow was glad that both my kids are only two yrs difference in gap,not as bad.Just that it’s tougher but then they do grow up together rather than too long age gap.

So let me blog more on both my children for now and accompany me together this blog of mine for their growing milestones!!:)

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My 2 children:Adelle n Ayden_//

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Now dealing with 2 children hardly gives me the time to blog.The only time I can spare to blog is when they took their afternoon nap.But turning on the PC means I gonna spend time editing photos size fr photoshop,save the photos fr FB before I can blog.

As I took the kiddos photos using my mobile,I do find it easier to blog using my Android phone since all the photos are stored there without doing double work by saving all the photos into the PC before I blog.

So now,I tried to blog n upload their photos directly here while they both nap.

Readers,do bear with me for not updating my bloggie often since I find it pretty hard to post a blog entry with 2 children.Perhaps the only time I can manage my time well is when Ayden gets older.Not a problem with Adelle since she nap,I can blog.But the sleeping time for Ayden is not fix plus he is a light sleeper thou.

I will try my best to blog as often as I could as I wanna jot down both children growing up milestones.

I’m more active in Facebook than my own blog.But now that I can blog through mobile,I will try to do it often.

The post natal blues that I’m having,not too sure if it’s going down the hill,getting better.But I don’t cry that easily as compared to last week when I’m in my 2 weeks after delivery.I hope I can get better.

Today,dear went back to work,leaving myself and the two kids.So I tried to bathe them both before my mum comes at 10+

All was well,I bathed Adelle first.After which then did I bathe Ayden.Initially was afraid that Adelle will reject and make a fuss when I bathe Ayden.Surprisingly,she didn’t and helped me with the preparation or even stand aside to see how I bathed Ayden.

Well,I guessed that no one is home except us,so there was no way she can catch others attention.

So far so gd.I will carry on doing such routine everyday till I can handle and prepare our lunch again even with Ayden around.Then if I get better in doing the same routine everyday,then my mum can stop coming in the day to help out as I don’t wanna tired her out.

Give me time,I’ll try my very best:)

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Will miss Doc Douglas Ong and his team._//

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

The group photos with Doc Ong n his team of nurses

 

 

 

 

 

Finally,it’s 2 weeks after the arrival of Ayden’s.Went for the stitches check on Thurs and both dear and myself bring Adelle and Ayden out on our own for the very first time.It wasn’t easy thou with Ayden feeling cranky when needed to sleep,and he is not used to sleep on the stroller yet,plus Adelle feeling jealousy whenever any of us carry Ayden.We did struggle on our day out yesterday to the clinic and went out at 9am and reaches home by 430pm(pretty hard to make Adelle nap outside)

 

Yes,I developed Post Natal Blues!!My gynae confirmed that and when I shared with him the concerns/problems I am facing now,he is worried and did some counselling with me for quite a while after the stitches check.He had mentioned that I needed help for now.I’m not super woman and things had changed,no longer handling just Adelle but with 2 kids.I needed more helping hands.Of course,Doc Ong had gave me some solutions to the problems I am facing now.Plus I cried when the blues kick in.Somehow I couldn’t control it.

 

At the same time,I missed the monthly/weekly check up to the clinic.I know all these are blues,but I can’t help but to think of it.I missed Doc Ong and his team of pretty ad helpful nurses,I wish I could visit them every time.Again,I know it’s post natal blues I’m facing,but then whenever I think of it,I will cry again.

 

We had prepared a gift for Doc Ong and his team yesterday.Some emicakes pastries,a thank you card as well as a piece of laminated photo of Adelle and Ayden for him.Doc Ong even joked with me saying I still have time for all these.But for me,I’m real grateful to anyone who had helped me all along,it’s a piece of appreciation then.

 

I don’t know when my blues will be over.I only know this time round,it’s pretty bad compared to Adelle’s time.I kept asking myself,why do I want to have a 2nd baby so fast?Isn’t it better with just Adelle?I’m just afraid of problem and afraid of starting all over again.I know that I had come by so far with a well behaviour gal,Adelle and now I gotta start all over again.I’m afraid of all these and afraid of not training Ayden well just like Adelle.In another words,I’m just afraid of this new changes,afraid to start all over again.How????

 

It’s all Post Natal Blues,I’m facing and seriously hope that it will be over soon.If not,Doc Ong gonna gives me the pills for hormones upon my request no doubt he hesitated in giving it to me.Hopefully I don’t need to take any of such medicine and will get better soon.Will be seeing him in 6 weeks time again.

 

 

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The arrival of Baby Ayden!_//

 

Adelle and Ayden

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden at Birth on 4th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ayden at Birth on 4th Aug 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2nd day in the hospital

 

 

 

 

2nd day in the hospital

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chew Zhen Hui Ayden

 

 

 

 

 

Chew Zhen Hui Ayden

 

 

 

 

Chew Zhen Hui Ayden

 

 

 

 

 

Chew Zhen Hui Ayden

 

 

 

 

 

Chew Zhen Hui Ayden

 

 

 

 

 

 

4th Aug 2011 is the date!!I gave birth to baby Ayden,just 1 week ago.Let me briefly jot down what actually happened on this date.

 

Now,in the middle of the night say around 3am,I gotten up to the toilet and realized a slight mucus plugs and was telling dear that,I had saw this and was told that waterbag gonna burst any time from now since mucus plugs was found.So by 9am,I realized that the panties was slightly wet and decided that it was time to admit to the hospital.Therefore we left home at 10am and reached Mt Alvernia Hospital at nearly 11am and got myself admitted and prepared all the things needed.

 

As no one is helping us with Adelle,so the daddy gonna bring Adelle in and out of the delivery ward till my mum came along.A good 11 hours of labour(compared to Adelle which is 19hrs,it’s consider shorter for 2nd birth)The worried and nervous me who can’t stand normal delivery without epi,I opt for epidural after my cervix was opened by 1cm.So by 12pm,epidural was taken and I felt the numbness once again.

 

Lying down on the bed with dear walking up and down the delivery ward,I can’t get to see Adelle by 3pm since she was no longer allowed in the ward when we have someone with her at the waiting area.

 

 

Doc Douglas Ong came at 5pm and checked that my cervix was opened till 5cm and decided that I might be giving birth after 9pm or might be on the 5th Aug.But then by 8pm,I’m fully dilated and was assisted by the nurse to push before Doc Ong comes.

 

The worried and nervous feeling can’t push well,no energy to push because I have no confident when the the nurse help me with the pushing without seeing my Doctor.Therefore they lower the epidural for me to have the feeling of contraction and the urge to push.Gosh,that’s hurting,the very 1st time I could feel the real bad contraction with the urge to push no doubt I’m on epi,but since they lower it,I could feel it as thought I’m not taking any epi!!It’s totally different experience for both delivery.For Adelle,although on epi,I can’t feel it at all and yet could push it better.For Ayden,totally can’t push well and have the contraction feeling till I almost wanna give up!(this delivery is slightly more miserable than Adelle)

 

But then,good thing,when I see Doc Ong,I felt so relived and I know I’m in good hand.He came and without 10mins of work,he vacuum Ayden out.(should have waited for him to come so that I won’t be having so much pain due to the contraction and pushing)The only side effect was the epi,which I vomited very badly just like Adelle time.But everything was worth while after seeing Ayden.And the surprising part was that,both Adelle and Ayden was born at 10pm+ and just 5mins difference!!!No wonder my master had been saying,both my children birth date and time will be chosen by the Buddha.Now I finally believed it deeply!Adelle was out on 39weeks 5days while Ayden was out on 39weeks 4days with 5mins difference!

 

 

 

Had a pleasant stay on 1 bedded room at the hospital for 3days 2 nights this time round.The food was as nice as 2yrs ago though I had blood transfusion due to low blood count standing at level 7.So Doc Ong wanna put me on blood transfusion after delivery.This is worst that delivery!!

 

 

But I’m glad Ayden and I could be discharge after 2 nights stay in the hospital thou.The only thing was Adelle was sick and could hardly accept her little brother well no doubt she was kissing and hugging her brother each time she sees him.The only jealousy was seen is when she saw either parent holding on the Ayden,she will expect the other parent to carry her.From here we know she was jealous.Hopefully in the long run,we could slowly make her get used to it and myself to “cure” this post natal blue soon.This depression kicks in very badly and I’m almost crying everyday for that one week.I know I can’t accept just like Adelle,and also the hormones changes is so huge that I cried easily.Kept asking questions like,why I want a 2nd child so soon?Why I have to start all over again after Adelle is so much easier now?All the why why why???

 

Seriously hope that by 1mth later,I will slowly get used to it and grow together with Ayden and Adelle with their growing milestones.